Quiz
QUIZ: Is your new man “the one”?
When you spend a lot of time together, you feel…
A. Relaxed. He brings out the best in me and time just flies.
B. We laugh, chill, talk and really enjoy hanging out. A little drained but spending too much time with anyone takes a lot out of you.
C. Anxious and frustrated – I sometimes feel like I am walking on eggshells or that everything I say or do is being judged.
His friends…
A. Are a solid group of guys that he has known forever. They get together for drinks and poker night every now and then but mostly we all hang out in a big group, which is great because I get on with them and their girlfriends very well.
B. Are a hodgepodge of random guys. They love boy’s weekends in Vegas, Miami or any “shore” and if any of them have a bachelor party on your anniversary weekend, you are pretty sure you’d lose.
C. Know very little about me, he keeps his circles separate.
Which statement best describes how much you trust him?
A. Thus far there have been no indications that I can’t trust him. He is very honest with his friends and family as well, it makes me feel very safe.
B. There have been a few times when I have noticed small inconsistencies in his stories like when I asked him how many women he dated before me, but nothing huge.
C. I once went out and had a woman tell me “I met you in Vegas at Mike’s bachelor party!” I was not in Vegas – I was at home watching his dogs.
My friends…
A. Have met him, love him and tell me how lucky I am all of the time.
B. Think he’s funny, nice and good looking. They are happy if I am happy.
C. Cannot stand him. In fact, a couple of them have refused to go out with me if I am with him.
Now tot up how many A’s, B’s and C’s your scored.
Mostly A’s.
You’ve met a prince. Please tell us where in the heck you met this guy and when we can send the cloning scientists over. This man respects you, his word, and the relationship – three traits that make you feel cared for, grounded and secure. You don’t have to spend your Sunday mornings analysing him over brunch with your girlfriends because he’s upfront with his feelings (a sign he has empathy and a strong moral fibre). The fact that he is able to put his ego aside and compromise shows that he truly cares about your feelings and bettering the relationship. Be sure not to take him for granted or mistake his kindness for weakness and always try and reciprocate his efforts! He’s the real deal – congrats!
Mostly B’s.
He’s a suitor – but how suitable is he? He’s not perfect (and that’s okay) but you have to ask yourself an important question. Is he transitioning from his single life into a relationship with you or are you simply standing in the second spot (behind his mother/friends/ex) waiting for him to bring you to the forefront of his life? Being in a relationship means allowing for an equal partnership, which encourages individuality but also respects the fact that we have now chosen to think about and respect someone else as we do ourselves. How can you build trust and strengthen bonds when you are wondering where you stand? Have a chat with him and tell him you’re ready to move forward. His reaction will let you know if it’s time to move on.
MOSTLY C’s
You’ve found a royal all right – a royal disaster. This guy is 100 pe rcent toad. Self-centered, arrogant and totally disrespectful, he leaves you feeling more frustrated than fabulous which is something no maiden deserves. These are the guys who call you late night for booty calls; make excuses as to why they have to let you down (again!) and who do not value your time, feelings or emotional investment in them. Whatever the reason he’s in this situation he’s not there because he cares about you. You’d fare better alone. Cut the strings that are stringing you along and remember that if you are busy analysing him – he’s not thinking about you.
